Tag Archive: failure


A Hand from the Past

We always seem to have those moments when we look back and think that we have accomplished nothing. As if no goals have ever been met. Nothing we intended to write has been written. And absolutely no progression is being made whatsoever other than the prolonging of our existence.  I was having such an episode the last week when I remember that I wrote a book…I wrote this book when I was in much worse shape than I am now, and that book really did the trick!

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The book was “How to Survive as a Complete Failure” and it has the log of things I did to get through when I was in the depths of failing. I read it a night ago and wanted to have contempt and say that the advice would not work for me…but I wrote it, and there were examples of when that advice did work for me. Which after I get over my pity party, got excited that I could do things to make my life better and I have proof that it works and that I actually wrote it down!

I am considering putting this on Kindle Self Publish, it is only 27 pages at the moment, but perhaps I will go through it once (correct spelling and grammar and whatnot…), and any new stories or experiences and call it the 2nd edition.

This blog is exactly the same thing. When I see people asking about how to start a blog, or that they want to write but they are not writers, I think of this blog… Which I have neglected at times, but have still written. When looking back on some of the post I reveal in the fact that “this is not the most terrible thing I have read!”

A big thank you for those who have been following this blog, keep a lookout on Kindle store for the “How to Survive as a Complete Failure” book!

What accomplishments from your past give you a boost?

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Have you ever tried to strike out on your own, make contacts, and work towards contracts, only to find that when you have nothing coming in and you finally get a job to lick your wounds, that then and only then the Opportunities start to come in?

I have been working on using Social Media much better than I ever had in the past, and to use multiple channels as well.  I actually care now how many followers I have on Twitter and am always seeking for more followers (you can find me on Twitter @theHartsOffice) I followed the max 2000ish that you can before it caps you until you have more followers, and now I unfollow about 50 people a day so that I can find others to follow that might follow me back.

I was making a little headway, but no business opportunities were coming into fruition.  I had a great oilfield job fall into my lap while a I was training for a slightly less great oilfield job doing something else.  I took the former and then got a email to go to Edmonton to discuss Android app development.  I turned it down since I know that even after a good chat things do not fall into place quickly and I do not want to ruin anything at this new job. 

I am constantly torn inside, I want security for myself and my family.  I suppose it is much more for the family than for myself since I do not need much to get by, but supporting a family is a different beast in itself.

After reading the beginning of “The Success Principles” and “Think and Grow Rich” I find, or at least feel, that there has to be big risks taken, and endurance in those risks to get any traction.  So a fear in me is that I won’t abandon security for these larger goals.  How wretched this makes my soul!  Lucky for me I also stumbled upon a book called “How to Stop Worrying” by Dale Carnegie.  This book has helped me greatly to allow myself some peace.

I have concluded that I need to keep reading all these good books and then work in my off hours to obtain my dreams while keeping the full time job and having the ability to provide for my family.

What are you doing to chase those dreams? 

Don’t be Afraid to Fail!

The fear of failure how done so much to destroy my life.  There are so many good things I could have done if I was not afraid if I had failed.  And the more I look back the more I realize that I would not have failed if I had just really given it a good try.

A big portion of feeling like a failure, or actually failing, is tied to money. If I can’t provide for my family, I am a failure; if I can’t afford to get a car to get to work, I am a failure; if I can’t afford needs, then I am failing financially. And for whatever reason, that seems to be the failure that cascades down to all the other failures that I experience.

No need to fear, there is a big, bright beacon of hope! If money is all you can think about, you can go out and get some! I know I have read about just making more money in many different books and heard it on multiple podcasts, but until you discover this truth by enacting yourself, it will just be daydream that you use to numb your fiscal fears.

I was working for a gas station and had just got pumped up by some great reading material and podcasts. I was working on my attitude and keeping myself alert to opportunities. The owner of a gas station chain that I previously worked at came in for some propane. I said hi and told him that I use to work for him (not directly under him so he might have known my face but not who I was). I chatted about how I want to be working all the time and trying to get out of debt, and that if he had anything that I could do for him, I would be excited to do so.

He told me to stop by the main office and chat with him. I showed up and he started me painting gas tanks, barrel lifts, and forklifts. It was a fair bit more than minimum wage, and I was able to come in whenever it was convenient to me!

A Book about Failure

I was racking my brain trying to write a book about computer programs or any number of things that I am good at, none of them were any good.  I was feeling rather low cause I really want to write and get out there.  Then a thought about writing a book about surviving failure popped into my head, and I could not shake the idea, but when I was in bed the book wrote itself in my mind.

So I typed what I could and saved it as a PDF for you to download, Enjoy and please give me any and all feedback!

http://buff.ly/LzUcqS

Sadly this post will not divulge the information given by the title, but this is the next great book idea that I have.  I have not yet finished “Guerilla Computing” so maybe I should not jump ship towards this book, but hey it is such a good idea!

When I was feeling down in the dumps I was thinking about what I could write about, what do I know almost better than everyone, and this Failure book idea popped into my head.  At first I was gonna write a cynical and downer of a book, but as a I was thinking it more through, I could actually write a really good book here!  Here are some of the ideas for this book, let me know if you would actually read it.

1.  No one cares about your situation as much as you do, and you have the power to change it!

2.  If money is all you can think about, go out and get some!
–  Extra jobs
–  Talk to everyone about your goals to make life better for yourself.
–  Perhaps start a blog
–  The point is to do something other than worry

3.  Cognitive Distortions (you think it is much worse than it really is)
–  What is a cognitive distortion
–  What the reality of a situation might be
–  Accept that the worse case scenario is possible and that you will deal with it
–  The real worse case scenario is you sitting at home stressing instead of doing ANYTHING else

4.  Exercise!
–  Exercise revitilizes the mind and body.
–  Helps you calm down and not have so many of the cognitive distortions mentioned before
–  You will look and feel sexier!

5.  Volunteer
–  Being in front of people un-paid is better than sitting at home un-paid.
–  If you never receive and help, trying giving it first.

6.  Trust your own Intelligence
–  You have ideas that you think might help you be less of a failure, try them!  You have nothing to lose.

7.  Pride
–  Being to prideful might hinder you
–  Take entry level jobs until you find something better
–  People are generally kinder and more helpful than you think!

Well these are a few of the ideas I had in a quick little brainstorm, please tell me what you think, what other suggestions would you have for Complete failures, maybe you are one as well and you know that it is a stepping stone to success.  Was there something that you did after a complete failure that got you back out there and trying your hardest?

Would anyone want to co-author with me?

God Speed the Right

Today was a great day in Church.  I heard a lot of what I needed to hear, and we sang this song in Priesthood, and some of the verses really spoke to me, such as:

Ne’er despairing, though defeated,
God speed the right.
Like the great and good in story,
If we fail, we fail with glory.

I am failing, left and right, and am desperate and all that other good junk.  But in this verse it says that even if we fail, we fail in glory!  I can still do my best and when I am defeated, it is not that at least I tried, but I tried in such a manner that success or failure I did it in a glorious fashion.  I dunno…for whatever it is worth readers!

“106: God Speed the Right,” Hymns of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, no. 106

Firmly

1. Now to heav’n our prayer ascending,
God speed the right;
In a noble cause contending,
God speed the right.
Be our zeal in heav’n recorded,
With success on earth rewarded.

[Chorus]
God speed the right.
God speed the right.

2. Be that prayer again repeated,
God speed the right;
Ne’er despairing, though defeated,
God speed the right.
Like the great and good in story,
If we fail, we fail with glory.

3. Patient, firm, and persevering,
God speed the right;
No event nor danger fearing,
God speed the right.
Pains, nor toils, nor trials heeding,
And in heav’n’s good time succeeding,

Text: Wiliam E. Hickson, 1803–1870

Music: Ernst Moritz Arndt, 1796–1860

Doctrine and Covenants 58:27–28

Alma 27:27, 30