We live in a time where negativity is force feed to us daily. We are overwhelmed by it and then we perpetuate it to all those around us. We need to combat it if only to not end up wallowing in depression for the rest of our lives!
I thought of this when I was having a session with my marketing coach and we talked about how we can talk Dave Ramsey language since we both listen to him. We also brought up Dan Miller, Michael Hyatt, and Dale Carnegie. I finally had to give him the explanation on why I listen and read from all these people.
It was because of the overflowing surge of negativity that I deal with everyday! At first I could blame it on all the external factors of people telling me I can’t and that they just won’t. Then the news and politics. But then my own internal powers of perception and overthinking fuelled that negativity to the point where I sit in front of my computer and the first thoughts ate “why do you even bother?”, “You know this will be a waste like everything else you have done…”, “I just want to blown my brains out….” Forgive me for being so gross about it, but these are the thoughts that dominate my mind if I do not aggressively seek to replace them with something better.
And I have replaced it with something better, over and over and over again. And I need to keep doing this until the day that I die an older than dirt man in his 90’s who did not blow his brains out.
The marketing coach was extremely impressed with what I did to win his business. He contacted me on Twitter and gave me a free session, then told me the price to continue. I was loathing in my self pity because I am broke and I really wanted to continue with the marketing coaching cause I so badly want to work for myself. I was listening to a 48 days podcast by Dan Miller and he spoke of the mobile app developer that just made an app and presented it to him, and the chain of events that lead that person to be working full time making apps and was very happy. So I shook of the despair long enough to make an app for this marketing coach and told him I would love to barter for some coaching sessions…and he agreed!
Just think if I had succumbed to the negativity that oozes all around me and would not even make the effort to listen to that podcast, I would not have made that app and I would not have the coaching and mu problems would have for sure worsen by the hour.
So what are some ways to fight back again negativity? Here is my list:
1. READ!!!!!
I read scriptures, motivational books, and twitter feeds from motivational people.
2. Listen to good podcasts
Yeah if you listen to the same podcasts you will get a lot of the same, but hearing a person’s voice who has struggled and then succeeded and now offering you hope and nuggets of wisdom to become better, you tend to keep those things in your mind.
3. Eat healthier
Trust me, unless you are a freak of nature or you have always watched you diet, you are not eating healthy enough. I drink a bunch of soda and wonder why my body feels like trash all the time.
4. Find people to improve yourself with
This is really hard, people want to do things for themselves, and somehow doing something with someone else takes away from them…I have not been able to enact this fully yet, but I know that it is important.